What Affair Are You Having?

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We know how it starts careers, children, money, activities, material things and so on and so on. We let so much get in the way of our “oneness” with God in our marriages that it starts to fall apart and we didnt even see it coming. She gets the feeling of feeling unloved and he starts to feel neglected.

AN AFFAIR, it starts like a brush fire and the next thing you know it is all over the place and will take months to put out. We think of an affair as being with another person but truly “affairs” can be a number of things and we dont even realize. Such as:

  • Careers
  • Children
  • Computers
  • TV
  • Cell Phones
  • Activities
  • Friends

Let me explain, anything that is taking you away from your onenesswith God is an affair.

After a period of time those “things” start to build up a resentment for and the pulling away starts. Next thing you know you are room mates living together with no feelings anymore. The blame game starts but he isnt do this and she isnt doing that. Your going through the motions with no emotions.

We are thinking, is this as good as it gets?

Affairs will lead to isolation,loneliness, resentment.

Honestly if you want him to pursue you, are you worth being pursued?

It is so easy to look at our spouses and see what he is doing wrong when we should be looking at ourselves. The Lord tells us in Proverbs 31:10 “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” Do you know that you are worth more then rubies? Do you show that on the outside on a daily basis?

We are loved unconditionally by God but the Devil is always trying to take that away from us on a daily basis. Our love for our spouses is a fight everyday. Change your thinking and YOU pursue your husband and see how he will take notice.

As I sit here and write this I think after 9 years, am I worth pursuing?

Taking care of our home, children and hubby is something I love doing but do I show that all the time? I am humbled to know that my husband does love me and how I wish he pursued me like he did nine years ago, I can look at myself and know that I have not been pursuing him.

Maybe just maybe if us wives would make our homes more warm and inviting, make ourselves appealing inside and out, we would see our husbands pursuing us. The Lord says in Proverbs 31:28-29 “Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:”Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”

This is something I have been thinking about today.

Put down the cell phone, turn off the computer & TV when your hubby gets home and make him feel like the hottest man on earth when he arrives home by brushing your hair, added a little make up, and put something nice on to knock him off his socks. Give him something to look forward to when he walks in everyday.

Something to think about.

Serving with Joy,

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About Sonya

I am a sinner saved by grace trying to move through this broken world as a wife, mom and homeschooler. I have 3 gorgeous sons {24, 17 & 11} and a wonderful husband of 13 years, that have my heart! I don't have all the answers however sharing my life with you in hopes that it will drawer you closer to Him. I pray that when you leave here you walk away knowing Him better.

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