5 Love Languages Study – Loving The Unlovely

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Good evening friends. Its Marriage Monday! Hope your weekend was blessed. What did you do this weekend to make your marriage a priority? With only 2 chapters left and then the rap up, you dont want to miss a session. Link up to us every Monday for Marriage Monday to get tips, on a Godly marriage.

Loving The Unlovely

Is is possible to love a spouse who has become your enemy? Is it possible to love one who has cursed you, mistreated you, expressed feelings of contempt and hate for you?

When the tank is low….. we have no love feelings toward our spouse but simply experience emptiness and pain.

The Lord tells us in Luke 6:27-33 “But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even ‘sinners’ love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even ‘sinners’ do that.”

We cant go back and change things, we can only make the future different. If we are kind and loving toward people, they will tend to me kind and loving towards us. That does not mean that we can make a person kind by being kind to him. We ca spurn love and walk away from love or even spit into the face of love. There is no guarantee that your spouse will respond to your acts of love. We can only say that there is a good possiblity our spouses will.

If you claim to have feelings that you do not have, that is hypocritical….. but if you express an act of love that is designed for the other person’s benefit or pleasure, it is simply a choice.

Try turning the situation around by telling your spouse words he would not expect that reflect back on you. Listen and accept what your spouse says. Change your actions towards your spouse to receive a different reaction even when it is hard because of the way they have treated you.

If this doesnt work always refer back to Jesus teachings in Luke 6:27-33 to help you stay focused on God not your spouse. We certainly dont have warm feelings for our spouses when they mistreat us but we can still choose loving acts for them. Try this for 6 months consistantly and watch the Lord work in your marriage.

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I am a sinner saved by grace trying to move through this broken world as a wife, mom and homeschooler. I have 3 gorgeous sons {24, 17 & 11} and a wonderful husband of 13 years, that have my heart! I don't have all the answers however sharing my life with you in hopes that it will drawer you closer to Him. I pray that when you leave here you walk away knowing Him better.

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