So He is Not the Spiritual Leader

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Many women are struggling with their husbands not stepping up and taking on the roll of a Spiritual Leader that is talks about in the bible. In today’s world we need them more then ever to step up to this great call from God.


The reality is that some of our husband’s need lifting and encouraging in this area and this is where WE come in. Our encouraging will give them the confidence they need to step up.

Encouraging our husband’s right where they are and praying to God to get our husband stirred up inside, is His job not ours.

I know most of us come into the marriage with great expectations about how the marriage will “look” and when it does not look that way we start to carry resentment around. Then before you know it resentment becomes your best friend and the husband gets pushed away left to feel judged and not good enough.

This is not what we want for our husbands. We want them to lead our homes, our children, us as God commands him to do however it will happen at Gods timing! That is something we all have to learn to live with. God knows best, not us!!!

We have to trust God and His promises to bring our husbands to lead the home. In the mean time we can lift him up and encouraging him to be the best he can be right where he is!

Suggest things you would like to see in the home, praying, devotions and such. Encourage your husband to participate with you or suggest him to lead. If he is not ready then be loving about it and pray to God to stir up his heart. He will come around again at God’s perfect timing!!! This will take some time and you will want to get frustrated when your husband is not stepping up, however remember God is bigger then us and he will bring him to lead when it is his time.

Ephesians 5:23 says “For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.
This is God promise, trusting in God to bring our husband’s to this Spiritual Leader role and loving him right where he is, in his walk with God, will bring him to where God has called him to be., the Leader.
Genesis 2:18 says “Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

We are his “help mate” and there is times he needs are help to step up till he is ready. Take on this role with joy and know that God is in control and His promise will come to be at his perfect timing and will!!!

We will do our marriages more good to put away are resentment and pray for our husbands. Cheerfully help him right where he is and not complain or grumble. Seek God when he is falling short. Let God be the one to stir him up. Be patience with him and pray for him daily!

Serving With Joy,

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About Sonya

I am a sinner saved by grace trying to move through this broken world as a wife, mom and homeschooler. I have 3 gorgeous sons {24, 17 & 11} and a wonderful husband of 13 years, that have my heart! I don’t have all the answers however sharing my life with you in hopes that it will drawer you closer to Him. I pray that when you leave here you walk away knowing Him better.

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