Mothering an Unbeliever

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“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” Proverbs 22:6

mothering an unbeliever

As mom we want what is best for our children, all the time. However in our walks with Christ each person has to make the decision to follow Him themselves.

No matter how much we as moms want to take our kids hands and guide them right into Heaven, that is just not how God planned it.

It’s a personal one on one relationship with Jesus that provides us with the way into Heaven.

What happens when one of our children has not surrenders their life over to Christ? How do we mother them while their walking in sin?

On our knees in prayer for their salvation daily is how!

This has been one of the biggest challenges in my walk to date. I have 3 sons {22, 15 & 10} and my oldest son was a prodigal for 4 years before coming home on July 19, 2012.

Though my son believes there is a God he has not surrendered his life over to Him.

Does this change the way I mother him?

Yes it does!

I have to fully trust in God with my child and let Him guide my every step. I have to let God be in full control for the sake of my son’s salvation. I have to lose myself daily and love my son the way that God loves him.

Through all of his sin until he surrenders his life over to Christ!

I am not going to lie, this is hard stuff.

When my son decides he doesn’t want to attend church with us, I feel my flesh flare up, to the point of getting upset that he is not attending.

When we are having family night and my son would rather sneak out the door to do what he wants to do instead of building relationship, my flesh flares up with disappointment with the time he is missing out on.

To watch the broken promises that are broken time and time again when my son’s own needs are put above his brothers. My flesh wants to scream out and say you are a role model to these little ones, take it seriously.

To see the looks on my younger sons face when their brother has let them down yet again.

When the taking advantage is more then I can bare, my flesh flares up to say enough is enough.

My other sons do not understand why we chose to do some of things we do for our son. And that is ok. We share with them this is how we love someone who is not walking with the Lord right where they are in their sin. They need more grace because they no not what they do as we do.

Instead of giving into my flesh, I pray, pray & pray! I let the Lord take this burden so that He can draw my son close to Him. I pray for strength to love my son like He loves him. To embrace the hope of that day when my son surrenders his life over to Christ.

Then everything will make more sense mothering him differently.

Walking out Christ in front of our unbelieving children is how God works in their life. They will see God through our love for them. Even though they are walking in sin they see that we are a safe place for them to come.

We have to hold on to the fact that God is in control and all He wants from us is obedience! To seek Him and let Him do His work. That hope is what keeps us loving our unbelieving child right into the arms of Christ.

Colossians 4:5–6 “Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity. Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person”

Do you have an unbelieving child that you are mothering? Would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

Check out “12 Ways to Love Your Unbelieving Child”

Serving Him Boldly,


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About Sonya

I am a sinner saved by grace trying to move through this broken world as a wife, mom and homeschooler. I have 3 gorgeous sons {24, 17 & 11} and a wonderful husband of 13 years, that have my heart! I don't have all the answers however sharing my life with you in hopes that it will drawer you closer to Him. I pray that when you leave here you walk away knowing Him better.

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