MARRIAGE

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boundaries

When I got married almost 12 years ago I knew of the Lord, I did not have a personal relationship with Him.

I had no idea how to be a wife, especially the way God intended.

I came into my marriage with A LOT of baggage and did not have a Godly influence to look too.

I met Jesus personally in Nov 2007 and everything changed. The biggest thing was focusing on my marriage.

The Lord would teach me much, over the next 4 1/2 years. One I would like to share with you today is boundaries being set in our marriage.

I honestly did not know boundaries needed to be set because I trusted my husband and trusted that he would not do anything to bring harm to our marriage.

As I started to study Gods word I came across John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly”

That truly stuck out to me that the enemy is never on a vacation. He is always out to destroy ALL relationships that would be pleasing to God especially our marriages.

I sat down with my husband and ask him what his boundaries were for our marriage and I shared mine with him.

Please be advised that this does not exempted us from the fight on sin or the battle on temptation. We have just learned how to keep the enemy at arms length.

Here are some boundaries that I set up for our marriages, I pray that they will be helpful to you. I am a stay at home mom and these boundaries are what work for me in this season of my life. If I worked outside the home or was exposed more, there would be more added to match my season of life.

1. I do not wear anything that is revealing. No low cut shirts, nothing above the knee.

2. I pay close attention to what is being watched on tv. If anything inappropriate comes on Ill turn my head or we will turn the channel.

3. I do not travel on the internet to places that are questionable. If something pops up I will quickly remove myself and share what happened with my husband.

4. I am not alone with a man for any reason.

5. I turn to Phil 4:8-9 in what I listen to, read or watch to keep from inviting thoughts into our marriage.

Great tips from Focus on the Family that I use as well:

Boundary: No coarse joking, not a hint of sexual immorality (Ephesians 5:3).
God’s Love: “Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love…” (Ephesians 5:1-2).

Boundary: Treat younger men as brothers and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity (1 Timothy 5:1-2).
God’s Love: “Watch your life and your doctrine closely … save both yourself and your hearers” (1 Timothy 4:16).

Boundary: Keep the marriage bed pure (Hebrews 13:4).
God’s Love: “Keep on loving each other as brothers” (Hebrews 13:1).

Boundary: Learn to control your body in a way that is holy and honorable (1 Thessalonians 4:4).
God’s Love: “May the Lord make your love increase and overflow for each other …” (1Thessalonians 3:12).

Establishing good boundaries will not only help protect your marriage, but it will also create a refuge where you can taste the glorious freedom of being naked and unashamed (Genesis 2:25).

What boundaries do you have for your marriage? I would love to hear your thoughts!

Serving Him Boldly,

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